- Research. This is where Mallgoths and wannabe hipsters go wrong. Look up a variety of sites that are specific to your interest. Find as much information as possible, even if it is negative or just a little bit of genuine info; all your other sources will help you determine what's true and what's false. For music-based subcultures, listen to as much of the music as possible. Again, make sure you know what the real music is. If you can, then talk to people already part of what you wish to join. My best mate has been a veggie for two years, and he helped me get all the needed help for going vegetarian. There are also forums and virtual communities that can be either general or specific. I recommend Mookychick and it's message-board.
- Plan before you do. Find recipes and brands you enjoy if going veggie or vegan. Figure out what part of the subculture's fashion you wish to use. If said subculture has several fashion sub-sets, such as how goth has cyber, punk, corporate ect., then decide on which sub-set(s) you will use. If you're converting to another religion, make preparations, such as buying key items and learning how to pray/worship/meditate/cast spells.
- Ease into it. Don't suddenly start point-blank refusing meat or dressing in PVC with acid green cyberlox. Not only will you have those close to you freaking out, but you could quickly get bored and having it become "just a phase". Start by choosing veggie options at restaurants, wearing a single element of subcultural fashion (such as plain dark clothes, a kitsch wristband), or basic worship/spells/meditation.
- Don't give in to your peers. I'm not a big supporter of violence, so if you get people criticising your choice in a negative manner, just tell 'em to get lost. If it turns into a hate campaign against you (and you'll sure as hell know when that is) then feel free to deliver a headbutt or smack if the time feels right. They don't control you, and everyone has at least one thing that is not liked about them. If the response is neutral/civil, however, just explain why you chose to get into whatever it is you've committed yourself to. If met with stereotypes and myths (who hasn't the old "all emos cut themselves" statement), simply tell them why it's a load of crap. Make sure you're nice about it though; a witch speaking aggressively when explaining why she and her fellows do not use curse magic will just feed the trolls and haters.
- The transition never really ends. You'll always have room and opportunity to develop and get deeper into the interest. This is where the whole concept of easing into it helps. Even now, my personal style keeps changing, and will keep on changing for years to come.
Thursday, 29 December 2011
How to go something and stay it.
That's is a very vague title, but it was that or a long and possibly confusing one with specifics within it. This is for those wanting to join a subculture, or change their dietary make-up, and anything similar. As a goth, a wiccan, and a vegetarian, I'm using stuff I've read, stuff I did, and even my own mistakes to help y'all.